The open letter to the abusers

We are humans we need a heart to beat not only as a pump to supply fresh blood to every corner of our body,pump the oxygen bubbles to our tiny veins of our brain to have enough
fuel to function.
Without enough fuel the brain can not function
A brain that is lacking the fuel can not allow us to think well
and act normally.
Normality can be explained by being in harmony with our surroundings
Living a life simply without conflict requires us to know the boundary between possible and
impossible,between realistic and unrealistic and between right and wrong also butween fair and unfair.
Our heart so we think,is the center of our feeling
Nobody has proven that the heart is jut anything other than a pump that start doing
BoomBoom since we are a tiny baby in the body of our mother.
So we think its the center of emotion we call love.
Love that we have to our child,our parents,our friends and our life partners.
But loved person is like a flower in a garden.
If a gardener loves and cares and pampers the flower,the flower will blossom radiate of colors and perfume that we all like
If a flower is not well cared it will wrinkles, dry and fades and stands like a shadow of itself.
Did you see people thinking to talk to flower and say:
-Hey you stupid flower why you are so lifeless?Are not you ashamed?
Nobody would even think to say this.
They will all blame the gardener.

In relations between humans, feeling of love is what the water and care is for flower.
If a child, a brother, a son or daughter, a wife, a husband, a worker, even a slave need
to be cared and loved.
If one of those persons do not return a loving attitude they are the victims of their gardener of love.
They just faded because lack of respect to their human dignity
If you do not respect the dignity of a flower or a human being they will fade.
Do not blame the victim
Blame the perpetrator.

Why this happens?
The answer in my mind is very simple.
We lack to find a proper place between our Brain and our heart.
Brain which is the center of our thinking that let us to be reasonable
Being reasonable is good for a life lived rationally
We also need to dream facing the uncertainties of future.
That were we need our pump that help us to love.
When our brain controls our heart, we lack dreaming we become lonely and inward looking
And when we let our heart control our mind we just do dangerous things for tomorrow and good things for today
And we humans need to balance the two
We cant live happy life only with one of them
And we must use both.
That is were the word of use come in.
Use is in my dictionary:
to take advantage of a person or situation; to exploit

Ha Ha.It does not look so innocent....
If I use the help of somebody
I must be careful to use his help that he does not think I take advantage of him.
And if he ask me to return his help, he also must be very very careful that I do not think
he takes advantage of me.
Helping a person it is not a free for all right to exploit that person
Even if you are a dictator with absolute power of a Causescu or Saddam?
Yes absolute power also require the consent of those who receive your powerful
orders
If not you end up with balls or rope like those two infamous persons I mentioned above.
No wonder the flames of hell are so powerful?
The word use must have a proper a b c.Or maybe?
It has also only a b.
If you add the a b to the beginning of the word use
It becomes abuse.
And abuse in dictionary is:
when someone uses or treats someone or something wrongly or badly.

The next question is who decide what treatment is wrong or bad?
Imagine the abuser decides what is bad or good and what is right or wrong?
If it is the case, we do not need another hell, our world will be the mother of all the hells.

As mentioned earlier even those who have absolute power at the end they fall victim
to the lack of consent of their subordinates.

So when we have the illusion of power or illusion of having the right
There is a fine line that we need to tread carefully.
Tread carefully means:

to speak or behave carefully to avoid upsetting or causing offence to anyone.


Otherwise we become violently killed president,rejected parent,brother,sister,wife,mother,customer.

Remember always why a flower dries

Blame always the perpetrator and not the victim.